This isn't a governance issue it is a scaling issue.
I bet that if there were enough people to build and track a near unanimous consensus for anything like this, someone would find a way to make something at least close to this, work. Building enough consensus is the only hard part. Everything after that is easy.
The 276 USD fee was mined in China as far as i can see. It raises questions. Why wasn't the big fee mined in South Africa, where i initiated the transaction, reading that nodes in SA saw the transaction first. It was mined quickly. I'd guess in less than 20 seconds. Could it be a faster computer in China? I don't know. It's kind of de'moral'izing.
Miners order transactions by bid price, every miner has access to every transaction in the mempool (each node has its own mempool), the order is just different between nodes. There is nothing nefarious happening, it is how the network is designed.
As long as cryptos keep forking, we won't be able to scale large enough to compete with much larger hierarchies.
you'll never get 100% consensus. As long as there is 1 guy that wants bigger blocks you'll have a fork with bigger blocks.
Bitcoin solved trustless consensus with Proof of Work already.
Another interesting example of people coming to consensus over real world things is Auger, look past the gambling and at how the protocol works. It is a great way of finding the truth according to the majority while disincentivizing bad actors.